Most people have never intentionally sought to hurt you, but we often overreact to things because we take them personally or make a wrong assumption. Communicating clearly and from the bottom of the heart, without attack, will make love flow. And remember, we are all personally responsible for our own happiness. If we put our happiness in someone else`s hands, they will surely disappoint us. The fourth agreement allows readers to get a better overview of the progress made in achieving their life goals. This agreement includes the integration of the first three chords into everyday life and also the exhaustion of one`s own potential. [8] It is a question of doing one`s best individually, which is different from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter. Ruiz believes that if you avoid self-judgment and do your best in every given moment, you will be able to avoid remorse. [10] By incorporating the first three chords and giving the best of himself in all facets of life, the individual will be able to live a life without grief or self-irony. [10] The Four Accords©, was published in 1997 and has sold approximately 9 million copies. It has been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade. Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are those we make with ourselves.

With self-love, you enjoy your own presence. You appreciate what you see every time you look in the mirror. You no longer live your life according to the opinions of others. You don`t need other people to accept you or tell you how good you are because you know who you are. With self-love, you are not afraid to share your love because your heart is completely open. In part 1 of this 2-part video, we learn about the “domestication” of man and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. As young children, our true nature is to love and be happy, to explore and enjoy life; we are absolutely authentic. But then we learn to be what others think we “should” be, and because it`s not acceptable for us to be who we are, we start pretending to be what we aren`t. When we are teenagers, we have learned to judge ourselves, to punish ourselves and to reward ourselves according to agreements we have never chosen. The Four Accords help us break self-limiting agreements and replace them with agreements that bring us freedom, happiness and love. Don Miguel Ruiz tells us that he himself had difficulty respecting these agreements: “At first, I did not expect to be able to do it.

I fell several times, but I got up and kept going. And I fell again, and I kept going. I had no mercy for myself. There was no way I would feel sorry for myself. I said, “If I fall, I`m strong enough, I`m smart enough, I can do it!” I got up and kept going. I fell and kept going again and again… (The language here seems to me to be The Little Engine, the. for tall people.) What do I mean by respect? When I am in relationship with you, I respect your choices; I will not try to control your decisions. Because I love you, I allow you to be who you are. I don`t need to agree with you, but I respect every faith you have, every decision you make because I love you as you are. I also respect my own life, and I will not allow you to control my life. What do you think of yourself? Do you love, respect and honor yourself? If the answer is no, that explains all the broken hearts you had.

If you don`t love yourself, don`t respect yourself, and don`t honor yourself, then you allow others to treat you without love, respect, and honor. But once you learn to treat yourself with love, respect, and honor, there`s no way you`ll accept anything less from others. By applying these agreements to your love life, you can avoid the trap of “taking your loved one for granted” while deepening and enriching your relationship. If you are already in a relationship that does not honor you, then you can enter a period of healing and purification so that you both return to love and respect, starting with yourself and with each other. You start with yourself because you must have love to give love; You have to have self-respect to give respect. .

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